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21 Relationship “Rules” That Are Big Red Flags

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There are exceptions of course, most of them being tongue-in-cheek jabs or exaggerations, but for the most part, any sentence that starts with “my boyfriend doesn’t let me…” is generally a red flag.

Maybe several decades ago in America it would be considered a norm for one person in a relationship to be dominant to the point of being controlling and arbitrary, but we’ve got enough of a general cultural awareness of abuse and power dynamics now that confessions like these raise a few eyebrows, to say the least.

21. Change your tone

Why, though?

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20. Getting annoyed

That’s not great – you’re two different people.

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19. Made up

That’s a level of insecurity that he needs to deal with, not you.

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18. The outside world

Gross. Dump him.

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17. The naked truth

Yeah, I’d say that’s an understatement.

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16. Hate it / love him

Don’t be a prude, dude.

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15. Wherever he wants

Classic double standard.

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14. You’re fired

It’s a destructive habit, no doubt, but you’re an adult and that’s not how addiction is handled.

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13. Hold in my tears

He probably just has no idea how to deal with it so he lashes out at you.

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12. I still believe

That’s abuse, yo.

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11. It’s a snap

Get outta there.

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10. Talk the talk

So many of these are just variations on externalized insecurity.

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9. Junk it

If they really did, I’m guessing your HR department would have something to say about it as well.

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8. Psycho

I’m always baffled by people who say stuff like this but then demonstrate no intention of just breaking up with the person they clearly don’t like.

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7. Watch out

I’m sure this won’t spark an endless debate in the comments or anything.

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6. Totally broken

Like I said, abuse is not the exclusive domain of any gender.

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5. Self-sabotage

It’s manipulation and it’s really not fair to you at all.

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4. Fight the fight

The sleep thing is the worst.

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3. In my feelings

I can feel, but not you.

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2. Pay up

Hmm, mixed feelings on this one.

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1. What a twist

When done right, control ain’t all bad.

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There’s a dynamic you’re comfortable with, and then there’s abuse and manipulation. Sometimes it can be hard to see the line between them, but it’s important to try.

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