Man Claims His Child’s Mother Is a Deadbeat. the Internet Smacks Him Down.

No one likes to hear stories about parents who aren’t pulling their weight, who aren’t supporting their kids financially or otherwise, or parents – dads or moms – who have to go to court to force the other parent to do the things they should want to do on their own.

That said, this father got a bit of a shock when he went to Reddit looking for support for his case against his child’s mother.

The two parents were only dating when she got pregnant, and she said immediately that she wasn’t ready to be a mom. She wanted an abortion, but since he adamantly opposed the idea, they struck a bargain. She would have the baby and pay child support until (and if) he married a woman who wanted to adopt their son – but she wanted nothing to do with raising him.

The father agreed and was legally granted sole custody. A year-plus down the road, he’s feeling the burden of being a single parent and wants the courts to basically force her to take some physical responsibility for their son.

“He is 18 months old now and he has never met her and I don’t even have any photos of her even. I am burned out and hate being a single parent. I love my son but I resent him.”

He goes on to admit that she pays more than the court ordered child support, but he doesn’t like how she seems to have totally forgotten she birthed a baby.

[NM] I got a girl pregnant and she wanted to get an abortion but I didn’t want that. She ended up not getting one but now she is not involved at all
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“I haven’t seen her in almost a year and the last I heard she has a tummy tuck and laser stretch marks treatment and is working at a gym. She also told her friends and family she is an egg donor and not a mother. She is a deadbeat mom and the court won’t do anything and is forcing me to struggle as a single parent.”

He was looking for support, but given that he’s learning the age-old lesson that even though you can make a woman have a baby, you can’t make her be a mother, no one is really receptive to his bullsh*t.

This commenter argued that she’s not a bad or deadbeat mom. In fact, she’s quite the opposite.

And also pointed out that it’s OP (original poster) who doesn’t really seem to have the child’s best interests at heart.

Some people were less than sympathetic, shall we say?

More than one person suggested the child might be better off without either of his birth parents, since neither want him – dad just figured it out too late to agree to the abortion.

But after this comment, what is really left to say?

This post just makes steam roll out of my ears, top to bottom – but it also makes my heart hurt for that poor baby. I can’t imagine an eighteen-month-old growing up with no real love to be found, only resentment.

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