For most of us, the original consent phrase “no means no” is completely and absolutely understandable. If somebody says no, you stop. Period. End of story. So why do some still not get it?
Enter Nafisa Ahmed.
She’s like us. She doesn’t understand how men are still unclear about consent.
So she uses an analogy to break it down…
I don’t get how rape is so hard to understand for some men. But, if you put it like this, they get it:
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
And her use of money in this situation is important…
If you ask me for $5, and I’m too drunk to say yes or no, it’s not okay to then go take $5 out of my purse… Just because I didn’t say no.
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
Because all of us understand what theft is…
If you put a gun to my head to get me to give you $5, you still stole $5. Even if I physically handed you $5.
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
And that means theft in ANY form…
If I let YOU borrow $5, that doesn’t give the right for your FRIEND to take $5 out of my purse.
“But you gave him some, why can’t I?”— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
Whether it’s provable or not…
If you steal $5 and I can’t prove it in court, that does NOT mean you didn’t steal $5.
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
And permission in the past DOES NOT equal permission forever…
Just because I gave you $5 in the past, doesn’t mean I have to give you $5 in the future.
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
It makes sense in pretty much any context…
And to think a man said “Well she sat on his lap & went to his house.” Okay, if I ask you to hold my purse, does that mean you can take $?
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
So yeah… how does rape not compute if we can understand why we SHOULD NOT take $5 that doesn’t belong to us?
If you can understand alllllll of that, how do you not understand the concept of rape?
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
Naturally, the man boys came out with their tired sh^t…
@ me when you’re not hiding behind a cartoon avi, bro.
— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
But most of the feedback was positive, and that gave Nafisa hope…
And thank YOU to the men who have interacted w/ this thread.
It’s sad, but sometimes they need to hear it from another man.— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016
We learned this when we were two. Don’t take what doesn’t belong to you. That’s all you need to know.
End of story.